Evelyn Zheng

I would look for someone who is caring and similar to me. I would want to be able to hangout with my big sister alone outside of sorority events and go on food/shopping adventures. It would be cool if my potential sister had similar hobbies as I do and could go to dance workshops with me occasionally. I connect better with people who are funny and outgoing but are more on the mellow side. I am someone who tends to do things last-minute and is constantly stressed out, so it would be nice to have a big sister who works in the same way and has tips on how to do better. It would be fun to go on cafe dates with my big sister to just talk, do work, or simply try out random drinks. I am compatible with people who have passions or goals that they work hard to maintain and people who also like to listen to K-pop!

I look up to my aunt the most, because she is independent, confident, and a little crazy. She is able to take care of herself, confront anyone anywhere, and knows how to have fun. She is often the one who makes plans with me and is always there when I need to rant, which makes me forget that she is not my age and not just another friend of mine. Whenever she is in a situation where she feels wronged, she doesn't hesitate to speak up, which is something I wish I can do, too. She is always sharing stories of her experiences with me. The topics of these stories can range from job interviews to dates that went wrong to how she jumped onto a subway train track. I like that whenever I talk to her, I either learn something or go on some kind of adventure. She reminds me to take risks while approaching life maturely.

I get along with people who are ambiverts, spontaneous, and can carry a conversation. I like when a person can be serious and have deep talks with me but can also be the complete opposite and carefree. Those who do not get into conflict with others often also match me well. Thoughtful, attentive people who are passionate about their interests get along with me best. I clash with people who only talk about themselves and are irresponsible/inconsiderate. I don't connect well with people who aren't inclusive of others or conscious of those around them. People who are forgetful or do not take the time to get to know others well are not compatible with me.

A moment I am proud of is when I performed a dance in front of my English class during my senior year of high school. I started dancing in my freshman year of high school, but confidence was a persistent issue for me. Dancing on stage was only possible for me if I had many people on stage to dance with me and I constantly worried about being judged, especially by those who had never seen me dance. I felt as if I danced for recognition and validation rather than for the reason that dance was enjoyable for me. At the end of senior year, everyone in my AP Lit class had to share something from their 'senior portrait,' and I chose to challenge myself to dance in front of a room of people who weren't my dance teammates. They didn't cheer me on like my teammates did, which made me more nervous. After I finished dancing, I knew my nerves caused me to mess up a couple times, but I was proud of myself for pushing myself to be more confident to better myself as a dancer.

Respect, authenticity, and empathy are qualities that I value the most in a person. I find it important for someone to be open-minded to other perspectives and considerate of others. Selflessness is important, too! I like someone who takes care of other people even if it is momentarily inconvenient to do so. I think it is important for people to be empathetic as it relates to avoiding conflict.

I hope to find a supportive and welcoming community from the New Member Process. By spending time with the sisters, I hope I feel more comfortable around them, get to know them more, and begin to feel a sense of KPL's sisterhood. I also wish to meet sisters that I didn't get to during my rush process, fellow new sisters, and my big sister! First and foremost, though, I hope to have fun and gain memories I will carry with me throughout college and my time in KPL.